I’ve mentioned my sexual orientation in the past, but never in a definitive, declarative sort of way. Never really felt the need. I’m not defined by my sexual orientation, after all, so why would it matter?
Apparently it does.
It matters to bigots, who would deny my rights should I wind up in a long-term relationship with another man some day and choose, as some couples may, to get married. It matters to the shittier side of the LGBT community to whom the word “bisexual” means “gay when convenient” or “more likely to be unfaithful”, or who don’t think I fucking count if I’m in a relationship with a member of the opposite sex. It matters to people who hate the love of others for reasons the rational brain cannot comprehend.
But it also matters to other people who may identify as bisexual. It matters to someone who watches PortsCenter, finds my Tumblr, sees I’m bi and thinks, “Hey, he’s like me!” It matters to someone who doesn’t want to feel alone in a world that can’t decide whether being “bisexual” is a real thing or not. It matters to someone struggling to figure out which side of the fence they’re on, only to discover that there isn’t a fence and that actually that sexuality is just one big field that we can all run through, hand in hand, if we want to.
Frankly, I’m far more concerned about the latter group than the former.
If this discovery means you don’t want to watch my show anymore, or that you’re unable enjoy any of the content I’ve created over the years, that’s your prerogative. If it gives you a new sense of perspective on who I am, that’s fine too. Whether your perspective on me changes for better or for worse, do what you need to do.
In the meantime, I’m going to keep doing my thing. Because what I am, above all else, is me, and I’m not going to stop making PortsCenter, or writing, or doing stand-up just because someone out there thinks of me differently.